The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

Crushing our holier-than-thou hearts jesus marriage parenting podcast the eight commands of jesus we canā€™t ignore Aug 26, 2020

The most dangerous place to find ourselves is believing, because of our actions, we are on the inside track to an eternity with Jesus.  The unfortunate, terrifying truth is we are not if our...

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Be joy commands of jesus marriage podcast the eight commands of jesus you can't ignore Aug 21, 2020

 

Choice is the backbone of life.  Choice gives us power over our circumstances. Choice takes you from despair to joy, from anger to forgiveness, from fear to faith, and on and on and on....

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Take your marriage to the next level marriage marriage mentoring the joy of difficult conversations Aug 21, 2020

What are the two most important things in life? No, it is not food and shelter.  It is not success at work or money.  Obviously. The two most important things in life are to honor God...

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Anchor your relationship in joy marriage spiritual growth the joy of difficult conversations Aug 20, 2020

What is the scariest movie, human, animal, or story for you? Me, it is Poltergeist reigning supreme at the top of my list. Perhaps tied with the freaking shark from Jaws, I still...

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The power of a sacred pause conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 18, 2020

"The most important thing in life is to stop saying 'I wish' and start saying 'I will.' Consider nothing impossible, then treat possibilities as probabilities." Charles Dickens wrote that, and...

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4 repulsive reactions you have to stop now conflict management marriage podcast the joy of difficult conversations Aug 17, 2020

Repulsive.  Just saying the word out loud should get your attention. "Arousing intense distaste or disgust." The Urban Dictionary defines repulsive as, "Something or someone that is gross and...

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The one thing you can't do conflict management marriage podcast the joy of difficult conversations Aug 14, 2020

When is the last time you heard, "You never do anything! I have to do everything around here!" Or at least some version of an irritated, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, or disgusting...

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How about trying NOT being a jerk conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 13, 2020

Move from adversaries to teammates. The first three minutes of a difficult conversation matter:

In a six-year longitudinal study performed by John Gottman and Sybil Carrère, they...

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Move from adversaries to teammates conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 12, 2020

The first three minutes

  • In a six-year longitudinal study performed by John Gottman and Sybil Carrère, they discovered that they could predict the likelihood of a couple’s divorce by...
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The joy of difficult conversations conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 11, 2020

The joy of difficult conversations will lead you to the marriage you want. 

25 years of missing out on the true joy resulting from pain

  • I didn’t want to feel Judgment,...
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How to have a difficult conversation conflict management marriage Aug 10, 2020

“In a world where great risks can bring extraordinary rewards, Tom Mullen has succeeded beyond his wildest dreams...” Now I hear it, I’ll never make it as a movie trailer...

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Never Quit Never Surrender - The Warrior's Marriage marriage podcast the warriors marriage Aug 04, 2020

Your marriage is hard, now get over it

I’m continuing in the series, The Warriors Marriage, today is perhaps the simplest concept and the hardest way to be a warrior in your marriage. Your...

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