The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

Help! Divorce is too expensive and homicide is illegal marriage podcast questions and conversations Dec 01, 2020

An answer to the question, "Where do you get help when the only reason you are still married is that 1) divorce is too expensive, and 2) homicide is illegal. (No, this is not a prank question. The...

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Do Life Differently: A strategic path toward extraordinary interview podcast Nov 25, 2020

A special interview with Jeff Reeter! Countless books focus on leadership. Numerous podcasts and TedTalks speak about leading others, leading organizations, developing leaders, and so on. But...

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What is the greatest predictor of success? marriage podcast questions and conversations Oct 27, 2020

A fellow learner wants to know, "What is the single best predictor of whether a couple who goes through your program will make it."

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How can I get my wife to love me again? marriage podcast questions and conversations Oct 26, 2020

The problem may be with you trying to get her to love you again.

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Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? marriage podcast questions and conversations sexual intimacy Oct 23, 2020

Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? Wouldn't it leave the instigator feeling under wanted if they are always having to start the festivities?

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A.R.E. You ready! conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 08, 2020

We've turned the corner and you are ready to turn betrayal into deeper intimacy!

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Let it go and flush conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 07, 2020

We are turning the corner on Primal Panic and focusing in on genuine healing! Now drop whatever you are doing and flush it.

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The Lover: Primal Panic Reaction conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 06, 2020

This is who you want to be if you ever want to overcome the pain of feeling betrayed.

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The Runner: Primal Panic conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 05, 2020

"We need to talk." Possibly the four worst words this style of panic reaction could ever hear! The Runner is the second bad reaction style to panic and fear of conflict.

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The Fighter: Primal Panic Reaction Style conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Sep 29, 2020

Ever feel like your words and actions were not achieving the deepest desire of your heart? You keep reacting in ways that push people further and further away?

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Born from betrayal: Primal Panic conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Sep 28, 2020

  • Like a knife stabbing you in the chest with each breath you take
  • Like a rain cloud of negative speak following your every move
  • Like an impostor hijacked your normal self
  • Like an explosion in your...
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The mathematical formula for your best life now! conflict management marriage podcast Sep 25, 2020

Dear brothers and sisters, when I was with you I couldn’t talk to you as I would to spiritual people. I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in...

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