The biggest killers to sexual intimacy and how to eliminate them
Jul 10, 2018![](https://kajabi-storefronts-production.kajabi-cdn.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/blogs/1276/images/n6i2r8ONQz6Wql7adSP7_photo-1521145239174-279dc2227166.jpeg)
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The health of your emotional relationship
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If you don’t feel loved, you don’t want to show love
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The specific things you are doing to kill your sexual intimacy
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Invalidation
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How you respond to your spouse matters.
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Lack of affirmation
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Negative beliefs
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Here’s how you eliminate them
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Invalidation
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Start to validate each other
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Empathize
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Lack of affirmation
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Make a list of what you appreciate about your spouse (you can do this on our app)
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Don’t wait till you feel like affirming your spouse, do it because it is the right thing to do. Your spouse isn’t pure evil!
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Negative beliefs
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Ask questions
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Assume the best instead of the worst all the time
Each one of these fixes takes important choices. Stop acting like a victim and do the right thing regardless of whether your spouse deserves it.
If you want to catch up on the previous episodes of the series, Tonight, then click here: https://www.smalleyinstitute.com/blog?tag=tonight